Back in 2013 SOOOO much time, energy and focus went into what the name and identity would be for my YouTube Channel. Happily A Housewife was perfect. At the time I was a young mom of small children. My entire world was within the walls of my home, and I happily went through each day trying to make it the best it could be. My oldest was only 6, Lilly was 4 and JD was a newborn. Life looked so much different then.
Fast forward 5 years and here we are. The number one question I keep seeing is if/when I will change my name online. I’m not going to lie, the thought has crossed my mind. People keep bringing up the fact that I am no longer a housewife. And while I don’t disagree with that, after reflecting and brainstorming I have decided the name is not changing, and I’m going to tell you why with 3 reasons.
1) The reasoning I would tell a girlfriend asking over coffee, or my mom or husband…. It would be a REALLY REALLY REALLY bug pain in the ass to change everything. There is SO much on the back end that you don’t see, and undertaking that task at this point isn’t something I am willing to do. Is it the best “business blogger” decision, probably not, but if y’all know me you know I don’t care much about that.
2) Happily A Housewife has always been about the journey, the name fit me so well back when I was 25 and drowning in playroom toys, dirty diapers and loneliness of motherhood. It is the story of growth as a woman. How the decisions I have made over the past 5+ years have brought me to this point. You can go back and watch from the beginning the person I was to who I am now (I actually highly suggest it, because that would be so much ad revenue….lol I’m kidding! please don’t watch those videos, I can’t imagine the outfits/haircuts/and bad content/quality!)
3) So I looked up the definition of housewife, because I think that is where most are getting hung on me NEEDING the change, and here it is:
guess what?!?!?! I still do all of those things, and I feel that is still my main occupation. LADIES, WE CAN HAVE BOTH! We can do anything and the way we want. We write the story, we decide the narrative. The labels do not matter. By reading this definition so many of us can relate, even if we have a housekeeper, or a nanny, SAHM full time, work from home, have an etsy shop, are a CEO, we are still the heart of the home.
So there it is…. why I am no longer a housewife but still totally am a housewife. everyone changes and evolves over time, but keeping those pieces of our past remind us of how far we have come. I hope that this post puts the question to bed and explains more of why I am not considering changing it. And some may say “Sam, you are not a sentimental person, you traded in your wedding rings for fucks sake….. why are you clinging onto this name…..?” Please re-read reason 1 and know that it really comes down to how big of a pain in the ass it would be…. I am just throwing in the rest of the psycho analysis bullshit to make myself feel better ok!?!?
**This post like many that I write have a sarcastic undertone, it really just is my real personality coming out to you all. While this is how I really do feel, it is exaggerated and written to add a laugh to your day as well as mine.**